Week 9: Wholeness

 

We are not meant to be perfect.

We are meant to be whole.

 

A past misconception of mine was that perfection leads to a sense of wholeness.

 

 for example:  if I am thin, pretty, smart, kind, well-dressed, educated, rich and/or cool enough everything will magically become better and I will inevitably be 'whole'.

 

As it turns out nothing could be further from the truth.

 

I tried to fix the wrong things instead of looking at what made me feel deficient and incomplete in the first place. 

 

Through this I learnt that perfection is not real and therefore unattainable. Placing such high standards on yourself only ever leaves you searching and unfulfilled.

 

Today the way I have come to understand wholeness is that is the opposite of seeking perfection but instead resonates from loving and accepting yourself unconditionally.

 

 This doesn't mean to not strive for a higher place or a better life but to do so preferably from a standpoint of self acceptance.

 

Wholeness seems to be more accessible if you don't fight so much against your flaws (if I can even call them flaws?) but rather finding the beauty in them and trust that everything you are as it is right now is:

 

 'good enough'.