Sunday, 2 September 2012

Week 9: Wholeness

We are not meant to be perfect.
We are meant to be whole.
A past misconception of mine was that perfection leads to a sense of wholeness.
 for example:  if I am thin, pretty, smart, kind, well-dressed, educated, rich and/or cool enough everything will magically become better and I will inevitably be 'whole'.
As it turns out nothing could be further from the truth.
I tried to fix the wrong things instead of looking at what made me feel deficient and incomplete in the first place. 
Through this I learnt that perfection is not real and therefore unattainable. Placing such high standards on yourself only ever leaves you searching and unfulfilled.
Today the way I have come to understand wholeness is that is the opposite of seeking perfection but instead resonates from loving and accepting yourself unconditionally.
 This doesn't mean to not strive for a higher place or a better life but to do so preferably from a standpoint of self acceptance.
Wholeness seems to be more accessible if you don't fight so much against your flaws (if I can even call them flaws?) but rather finding the beauty in them and trust that everything you are as it is right now is:
 'good enough'.


  1. I love this post so much! I just found your blog and I'm so glad I did. You are wonderful. This was very eye-opening and helpful :)

    1. Aww, thank-you so very much for your sweet words Tayla. This made my day. All my love and well wishes to you. xo

  2. I find it hard to apply those words to me but it makes me so happy to know that you're already there.
    And I think you are more than 'good enough'. You are amazing just the way you are.
    Much love xoxo

    1. Thanks to you dear girl. One day you will be able to feel and know that you too are good enough.

      The truth is that YOU are. Keep going, I believe in you so much! xo

  3. My god daughter went to show me something the other day.
    She is 12.
    She made a remark as to where she could improve, and she ended with, but it is good enough so that is okay.
    I smiled for days after that :)
    I love you pumpkin <3

    1. This is such a sweet little story. "It's good enough, so that is okay." Love you right back xo